Blog Post #7 Dear Dad
To my dad the King of the world and Master of the Universe. My dad used to tell me that he was King of the world, Master of the Universe! I love how he would emphasize this with his whole body.
And you know what? I always believed him.
Who am I?
I am a coach. I am a husband. I am a friend. I am an athlete. I get up at 4:30 am every day because I believe what I do is essential. I think I am preparing people to live their life the way it should. Active. Engaged. Aware. Healthy. Grateful. I believe we don’t honestly know ourselves until we have struggled. Yes! You have to experience pain. Yes! You have to get hurt. Physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally that is where the good stuff happens. As an adolescent, I knew nothing of the world, and I roamed around like a wild animal riding emotions some good some bad and a lot in the middle. As a young adult, I sought out the good feelings of love, excitement, and joy without having any proper system or strategy to maximize or sustain these experiences. As a young man, I felt I knew everything about the world, and I was ready to take on any challenge. Full of piss and vinegar! I was wrong! The world did not treat me very well, and I rebelled against it because I did not understand it, in fact, I refused to follow it. I was a rebel without a cause, and I thought that was how I wanted to live my life. This rebellious kid is what I know, and this is who I am going to be from here on out. Fixed! Set! Settled!
I didn’t want to settle, and I didn’t want to do just one thing I want to explore and grow and do numerous things with my life but how can I when I don’t understand the world in which I am living?
Why didn’t anyone teach me this?
Why didn’t anyone tell me how I am supposed to live?
Wait! Did they? Was I not listening?
Let’s go back and try to remember what the first lesson your dad ever taught you. What was it? You can do anything you set your mind to! Why did he say this? I was so young I didn’t set my mind on anything except the next emotion later in life it seemed the more I tried to love and be happy, the more pain and hurt I felt, but I can do anything I set my mind to listen to what he is saying. Set your mind to the things that make you most happy in this world.
So what makes me happy?
Love. Being with someone and sharing life experiences together.
Friendship. Having people that know who you are and want to be around you just because there is a magic that comes from interacting with great friends.
Growth. Learning more about love and relationships, friends, and friendships and all the things that make me tick.
Challenge. I probably wouldn’t have liked soccer so much if it didn’t challenge me. I stopped playing baseball, and football because there was too much standing around unlike the nonstop action of soccer and basketball. My dad and I would have slap fights all the time, and I loved it because I knew he was bigger and faster than I was so if I could get a shot in I too was getting bigger and faster. I got my ass handed to me the first time I did a Cross fit workout so naturally like most people I had to challenge myself to get better because I considered myself a good athlete and this was the ultimate measure of athletic performance, so I wanted to be able to do these things proficiently.
Through much trial and error I have found a path to my happiness, after all the lessons I’ve learned I can go back to one simple truth that leads me to my next experience and my next lesson. The Superman symbol is a crest of hope for the people of Krypton but for me; it’s a sign of power within, I can do all things. You can do anything you set your mind to because the key to the universe is your mind. Your mind will unlock doors, experiences, and truths that so many people live a lifetime avoiding, fearing, or neglecting. Your mind is the window that will show you the world, and your mind is the filter that will let you see the world through whatever lens you choose; love, hate, malice, or grace. Your mind is the key to a happy life so what you decide to fill your mind with will also fill your life.
I am listening to you dad, remember when we had that talk about something great is going to happen to us? I remember! I remember a lot of the lessons you’ve taught me over the years and that something great is this my ability to tell the world all the lessons I’ve learned most of which were taught to me by you so when you are ready I am sure people would like to hear what you have to say and I look forward to the day we can sit down together and talk about these and many more life lessons: