Blog Post #6 Summary of the past five posts
For those of you that have not been listening I will give you a quick review:
1. Challenge yourself (Leave your comfort zone)
You find the best things in life outside of your comfort zone so stop expecting things to get easy or comfortable if you do you are dying either on the inside or in real life. Life is hard so step up and take it head on instead of trying to find a way out.
2. Own mistakes (Attack weaknesses)
Whatever you are afraid of is what you need to face. Stop talking. Stop thinking. Face your fear! Fear is weakness and weakness can be overcome if we are willing to face it head-on. I am afraid of __________. I am not strong at__________. We are allowed to make mistakes, but when we don’t do anything to change them, the result is on us.
3. Exercise your brain (Read, write, speak, Move, Meditate, etc.)
The key to each person’s salvation is their mind. If you say the phrase “I don’t know” that means that you are not willing to try to eliminate that phrase from your vocabulary. Try to read a book that you enjoy, write anything, speak to a person about something you like, move your thoughts forward don’t have opinions without support, shut up and listen to your breath for a few minutes every day, or do some other activity that gets your neurons firing.
4. Live, Laugh, Love, Like, and Lift
Live in the moment, laugh often, Love unconditionally, like what you create, and lift yourself or others (and maybe every once in awhile some weights).
5. Begin with the End in Mind (Intention)
You don’t have to know what the final product will look like and be just get started on making your life match your dreams. Every day put some energy into your biggest, wildest, craziest dreams. I don’t check these off of a list or align my priorities according to these five tasks as much as I feel them when they come. I am uncomfortable every day because I know that’s what is going to make me a better husband, athlete, businessman, and friend. I am relentless when it comes to owning my mistakes and attacking my weaknesses. I love to read and write every day. My five principles are a quick check-in with myself to make sure I am on the right path, and I have every intention of being an influence on every person I interact with on a daily basis. I am not perfect, and I don’t have a way of measuring this or maximizing it other than the feeling I get from doing these things and knowing that this is how I want to live my life.
Now here comes the hard part. Check your Ego at the door! Don’t bring your problems, your negativity, your excuses, or your complaints. Life is hard we all know that let’s not talk or think, let’s do something about it. I don’t care who you are or what you’ve done let’s see what you can do right now. Show up! Listen! Learn!
Checking your Ego means respect. Respect yourself. Respect the people around you. Respect the program and the process. If a movement, workout, or some obstacle has never humbled you odds are you avoid challenges and stay in your comfort zone without ever exposing any weaknesses, and you would never allow yourself to be vulnerable. The sad part is you think that all these things on the outside are essential, the way you look, or the car you drive or the house you live in, but they are not. Building character, mental toughness, or grit will reveal who we are and most people are afraid of that reality. I dare those people to go outside of themselves and do something that will stretch them mentally, physically, emotionally. Find out what's on the other side of that fear, find out why so many people are training hard for life. Find out what we learn about ourselves when a movements challenge us, or the way workouts break us, and obstacles remind us why we do anything. This is what we don’t talk about in any training program because we want to make everything light and fun without ever really questioning anything, that is why we have a whole industry of “Shit that doesn’t work” because people want to continue this lie that we have been telling ourselves since the day fast food and sugary beverages became so easily accessible. If people would get out of their own way and admit that they need help or that they don’t know what they are doing gyms would be filled all day long but they can’t give up the lie. They can't give up this image that they are no longer able to do the things that we do in the gym every day. The only thing holding them back is this lie that people tell themselves, this attitude of “I can’t” that they reserve for those things that would genuinely change them if they would just let it. We have different challenges today for sure but doesn't it seem a little ridiculous that human beings spent so much time and energy to create convenience and that is what is killing us. Ease and comfort are nice, but they are temporary and not how we should live every day.
Trust me I get it my mother sends me text messages all the time to tell me how much she worries about me hurting myself lifting heavy weight and doing the things that I enjoy doing. What she doesn't understand is what I am doing is going to serve me much better in the long run. I will be able to do things like lift weights and exercise for my entire life because I make a choice every day to move my body. To my mother, I am training hard for something, and she thinks that what I am doing might be a little dangerous so she worries. From her perspective, I can see why she would think this I have been an athlete my entire life and I can only remember a handful of times my mom ever worked out or did something physically demanding. Not knocking you mom I love you, and I know you know how to work hard. For some reason getting family members to train and follow what you do is harder than getting complete strangers. What my mother doesn't know is that I am not training hard for a competition, or an event I am training hard for life and that choice I make every day is to live to the fullest.
Expressing my fitness is how I show up in my life, it bleeds into every other avenue of my life, and helps drive me to be a better person, husband, father, and businessman. I am not saying that I have all the answers because if you know me, you know that I have made a lot of mistakes. By no means have I had it easy or comfortable but I am saying that I see a lot of people who want to show up in their own lives and I think movement is the answer. We are all human beings; we've all heard the saying "if you don't use it you lose it" a lot of us have lost it. I believe we find it again when we start moving and how far you want to go with that is the exciting point. In my world, I am an average athlete, intermediate at best, but to my mother, I am superhuman. I think that is pretty cool because I've come a long way, but I still have a long way to go so bring on the hard stuff I wouldn't have it any other way.